If you really want to achieve a given thing in life then you must recognize the importance of setting and working towards goals. Life without them would be pointless. You would simply wander from one unwanted situation to another - one minute happy, the next sad; one day rich, the next poor. You simply must have something to aim at.
The Oxford English Dictionary defines a goal as "An aim or desired result. The destination of a journey." In a thesaurus other words for goal include, "aim", "target", "intention", "purpose", "ambition", "desire", and "dream". There are lots more and if you take a look through the list it will help you to focus on setting your own goals.
Actually setting goals is easy. We do it every day when tackling the simplest things like doing the laundry, cleaning the car, weeding the garden, and even just getting up at a set time and making sure we're not late for work or college. In order to do those things we know what we need, what we have to do, and when it has to be done. So we know instinctively how to set goals to do the things we have to do. So why does it become so difficult to set them for the things we actually want?
Let's take a look at that example of doing the laundry. First you take the dirty items out of the basket and sort them into batches, for example separating the colored items from the whites - you don't want colors to run! Then you load them into the washing machine. You put the detergent, conditioner, and possibly stain remover into the right compartments, set the correct program, and switch on.
You can then walk away and get on with something else like weeding the garden. Then at the end of the wash cycle you get back to the laundry. You take the items out of the machine and do what you need to do to get them dry - either put them in the tumble dryer, or hang them up somewhere. Once again you can then get on with something else.
Once the washing is dry you then have to sort it again between those things that need pressing and those that don't. The latter you fold and put away, the ironing you either set to immediately or decide on a later time to do it - you may have more urgent matters to deal with. Once the ironing is complete you put the items away and the laundry is done - until the next batch! You will probably feel a great sense of satisfaction and maybe relief that the chore is finished. Now you can relax!
To set effective goals for the things you want in your life you must follow a similar process. The first, and most important thing, is to know exactly what you want to achieve and how it will make you feel. With the laundry you knew you wanted clean and pressed items and that you would feel satisfied when it was done.
Once you know that you can set about aiming for it. You must know how to do it, what resources you need, and what steps you will have to take. You will need to know how long it will take and what you need to check along the way - you can't put the laundry away if it's not dry.
You will need to plan and break down the overall goal into smaller tasks or projects. You will have other things that you need or want to do and around which you will need to fit your goal.
But just like the laundry you will complete it and you will experience those feelings and emotions that you visualized when you formed your desired result. Achieving a meaningful goal really can be as simple as doing the laundry.